50/50 Custody
Posted: Sun May 03, 2026 11:29 pm
I am in Michigan. I was given “Reasonable Parenting Time”. This consisted of every other holiday, 6 weeks of summer and the “Regular Time” of every other weekend, only 4 days a month. This “Parenting Time” equated to approximately 93 days a year for me and approximately 272 days for Evil Baby Mama.
I was allowed only 93 days a year with my girls and not a second more. How is this ok? I asked to see my girls more. I begged to see my girls more. When I did try to see my girls more Evil Baby Mama always turned it into a fight and told me no. I had to go to court to try and see my girls more and was still told no. I was always told no by Evil Baby Mama and the Judge. All that I ever asked for was equal time. That’s it. Nothing more. Nothing less. Just equal time. I could not have equal time with my own kids. I was not allowed more than 93 days a year with my own children. Only 93 days. Out of 365. Only 93 days.
I begged Evil Baby Mama to stop. Stop the fighting and just let me be Dad. Evil Baby Mama would not do this. Every time I turned around and the sun came up Evil Baby Mama had something new to accuse me of and use against me to keep my girls from me. Evil Baby Mama weaponized my parenting time and used it against me, used it to hurt me.
Evil Baby Mama brainwashed, lied to and manipulated my girls. Evil Baby Mama was able to do this because Evil Baby Mama had more of an influence on my girls because Evil Baby Mama had more time with them.
If I could have had 50/50 equal time with my girls Evil Baby Mama would not have been able to do this. If I could have had equal time with my girls it would have been much more difficult if not impossible for Evil Baby Mama to turn my girls against me.
Evidence favoring 50/50 shared parenting (when it works): source: Grok
The evidence against 50/50 is wrong.
High/severe conflict? This happens because there IS NOT 50/50. Without 50/50 gives the custodial parent complete 100% control over the children. That control is used against the non-custodial parent. This hurts the non-custodial parent and the children. This control would not be possible with 50/50.
Frequent transitions may disrupt attachment in “some” cases? Disrupt attachment with who? Mom? How? Without 50/50 Dad does even have time to build any kind of attachment with children. Children don’t have time to build one with Dad. Non 50/50 disrupts attachments.
Forced 50/50 with unfit or cooperative parents can harm routines and stability? Really? This does not happen with 50/50. It for sure happens without 50/50. Without 50/50 and an uncooperative custodial parent makes parenting time so much worse. Without 50/50 the non-custodial parent has practically zero say in anything with their children. The custodial parent has full control and it’s this full control that causes harm.
Of course there are going to be certain situations where 50/50 custody would not be possible. Perhaps the parents live too far apart? In general though, 50/50 custody is possible and would generate more good than harm.
Non 50/50 custody puts an evil, vindictive, custodial parent in complete control. This complete control is what causes the harm, the severe conflict and disruption with attachments.
States with 50/50 Custody source: Grok
States with current, active online petitions source: Grok
States that currently have active or pending bills proposing a rebuttable 50/50 (equal shared parenting) presumption in child custody cases as of May 2026. source: Grok
I was allowed only 93 days a year with my girls and not a second more. How is this ok? I asked to see my girls more. I begged to see my girls more. When I did try to see my girls more Evil Baby Mama always turned it into a fight and told me no. I had to go to court to try and see my girls more and was still told no. I was always told no by Evil Baby Mama and the Judge. All that I ever asked for was equal time. That’s it. Nothing more. Nothing less. Just equal time. I could not have equal time with my own kids. I was not allowed more than 93 days a year with my own children. Only 93 days. Out of 365. Only 93 days.
I begged Evil Baby Mama to stop. Stop the fighting and just let me be Dad. Evil Baby Mama would not do this. Every time I turned around and the sun came up Evil Baby Mama had something new to accuse me of and use against me to keep my girls from me. Evil Baby Mama weaponized my parenting time and used it against me, used it to hurt me.
Evil Baby Mama brainwashed, lied to and manipulated my girls. Evil Baby Mama was able to do this because Evil Baby Mama had more of an influence on my girls because Evil Baby Mama had more time with them.
If I could have had 50/50 equal time with my girls Evil Baby Mama would not have been able to do this. If I could have had equal time with my girls it would have been much more difficult if not impossible for Evil Baby Mama to turn my girls against me.
Evidence favoring 50/50 shared parenting (when it works): source: Grok
- Multiple meta-analyses (including Bauserman 2002, Baude et al. 2016, and the 2023 Vowels et al. systematic review of 39 studies) find children in joint physical custody (JPC, often 35–50% time) have better or equal outcomes vs. primary/sole custody on emotional health, behavior, academics, physical health, and parent-child relationships.
- In ~75% of studies, shared custody kids matched nuclear-family outcomes; sole-custody kids fared worse (often due to fewer resources from one parent).
- Benefits strengthen the closer time splits get to 50/50 and hold in many moderate-conflict cases (kids get “emotional breaks” between homes).
- High/severe conflict or domestic violence/abuse: Can expose kids to ongoing harm or instability; some studies show worse adjustment than primary custody with a stable parent.
- Very young children (under ~3–4): Frequent transitions may disrupt attachment/security in some cases.
- Quality of parenting and logistics (distance, schedules, parental fitness) matter more than exact equality—forced 50/50 with unfit or uncooperative parents can harm routines and stability.
The evidence against 50/50 is wrong.
High/severe conflict? This happens because there IS NOT 50/50. Without 50/50 gives the custodial parent complete 100% control over the children. That control is used against the non-custodial parent. This hurts the non-custodial parent and the children. This control would not be possible with 50/50.
Frequent transitions may disrupt attachment in “some” cases? Disrupt attachment with who? Mom? How? Without 50/50 Dad does even have time to build any kind of attachment with children. Children don’t have time to build one with Dad. Non 50/50 disrupts attachments.
Forced 50/50 with unfit or cooperative parents can harm routines and stability? Really? This does not happen with 50/50. It for sure happens without 50/50. Without 50/50 and an uncooperative custodial parent makes parenting time so much worse. Without 50/50 the non-custodial parent has practically zero say in anything with their children. The custodial parent has full control and it’s this full control that causes harm.
Of course there are going to be certain situations where 50/50 custody would not be possible. Perhaps the parents live too far apart? In general though, 50/50 custody is possible and would generate more good than harm.
Non 50/50 custody puts an evil, vindictive, custodial parent in complete control. This complete control is what causes the harm, the severe conflict and disruption with attachments.
States with 50/50 Custody source: Grok
- Arkansas
- Florida
- Kentucky
- Missouri
- Mississippi
- West Virginia
States with current, active online petitions source: Grok
- Michigan
- North Carolina
- Pennsylvania
- Tennessee
States that currently have active or pending bills proposing a rebuttable 50/50 (equal shared parenting) presumption in child custody cases as of May 2026. source: Grok
- South Carolina: The Equal Parenting Act (H4622/H3085 and related) would require judges to start custody cases with a presumption of approximately equal parenting time unless rebutted. It was actively moving through the legislature in April 2026 and remains under consideration.
- Michigan: Senate Bills 940–942 (and House companions like HB5211) create a rebuttable presumption of 50/50 shared parenting as the starting point in custody disputes. They were introduced April 29, 2026, and referred to committee (with House versions receiving hearings).
- North Carolina: Senate Bill 162 (2025–2026 session) establishes a rebuttable presumption of joint custody and shared parenting as in the child’s best interest. Introduced February 2025 and referred to committee; it remains pending with ongoing advocacy efforts.
- Mississippi passed HB1662 (a rebuttable 50/50 joint custody presumption) in April 2026; it was sent to the governor and is now law (effective July 2026), so it is no longer a pending bill.
Legislative activity can change quickly—check official state legislature sites (e.g., scstatehouse.gov, legislature.mi.gov, ncleg.gov) for the latest status.