Why am I here?
Posted: Sun May 03, 2026 11:31 pm
I am here because I am a Dad and I got Screwed!
I am here because I was forced to fight for my own kids.
I am here because my parenting time was weaponized and used against me.
My legal custody battle started in 2005 and ended in 2024. I have two girls that are now adults, 19 and 21. I am still fighting for them. As of right now, they will not talk to me. One of them says that she hates me. I am a Grandpa for the first time. I have a grandson. I have never met him. I have never seen a picture. I don’t even know his name. Right now, my girls want nothing to do with me. This is inadvertently my fault, but ultimately, it’s their Mother’s fault. I call her “Evil Baby Mama”.
My girls were kept from me. I was shut out of their lives. I’ve had to fight for my girls their entire lives. Evil Baby Mama did this. My girls were lied to, brainwashed, manipulated and “groomed” to hate me. Evil Baby Mama did this.
For over 20 years I have been fighting for my girls. I didn’t start the fighting. I didn’t want the fighting. I begged for the fighting to stop. Evil Baby Mama would not stop. I just wanted to be Dad but that was taken from me. Was I an asshole to Evil Baby Mama? Of course I was. Evil Baby Mama kept my girls from me, shut me out of their lives and forced me to fight for them. What am I supposed to do? Send her flowers and say thank you?
This constant, 20 year fighting for my girls has beaten me up, severely. It has pushed me into such a deep hole of depression that I can’t climb out of it. It has messed with my head to the extent that most days I can’t even think straight or even barely function. I’ve shut down and closed myself off. I seem constantly in a bad mood, upset. I get angry easily, and often, from stupid things. When I do get angry, upset, hurt, my mouth opens before my brain reacts so I’ve pushed people away, lost people, friends, family and my girls. I’ve lost motivation and ambition for anything. Interest in anything that I have loved has faded. My mind is empty yet a million thoughts race around. I feel lost without my girls. I feel like I am going though life on auto-pilot. I feel misaligned. Out of place. I feel without purpose. My mind shattered. My heart broken. My world crumbled. All that remains is dust on a picture and a faded memory. My life was taken. My happiness stripped away. I walk alone in darkness as I have lost my light. I have lost who I am. Just one hug. Just one, “I love you, Dad”, would instantly heal so much.
Evil Baby Mama did this to me. She was only able to do this because I love my girls so much.
Since the day my girls were born they have been the reason that turns my world. Every time that they were kept from me. Every time that I was shut of their lives. Every time that I had to fight for them. Every time that I was told no. I felt like a knife was being plunged through my heart. Every day that wound just got deeper. It wouldn’t go away. It couldn’t be healed. It can never be healed. I know I am Dad. I’m supposed to be “big and tuff”. Dad isn’t supposed to hurt. Dad isn’t supposed to cry. But I’m only human. I can only take so much. How much am I supposed to take? Is there a legal limit?
There have been scores of nights that I had to literally cry myself to sleep because I missed my girls so much. People don’t understand how much damage just this alone causes. I couldn’t see them. I couldn’t talk to them. I couldn’t do anything for no reason other than an evil, vindictive Mother.
I’m doing a 50/50 thing here. This is partly for my girls and partly for you. I’m doing this for my girls so that maybe someday they will understand what I really had to go through for them. What I was put through just trying to see them. I made mistakes. I’m not perfect. What happened with me and my girls was bad. It defiantly was not good. But what Evil Baby Mama has done is so much worse. My girls have been too brainwashed to see that. Too manipulated to understand. I need them to see that. It seems that my girls believe that I am 100% the bad guy. That I caused all of the problems. That I treated them bad their entire life. This is not true. I’m not trying to get my girls to hate their Mom. I don’t want that. I just want my girls to know the truth.
For over 20 years I have been trying to get my voice heard. For over 20 years I have been begging for someone to listen. No one will listen. Ever. For over 20 years there has been no change. I’ve always just wanted 50/50 with my girls. Nothing more. Nothing less. Just equal time. I couldn’t have that. I couldn’t have equal time with my own kids. Instead, I was forced to fight for them. I never tried to keep my girls from their Mom. I never lied to my girls about their Mom. I have never tried to get my girls to hate their Mom. Yet, this all was done to me.
The other part of the 50 for doing this is for you, Dad. I went through this hell for 20 years. I’ve gotten beaten up so bad. My family, my life, destroyed. Because I just wanted to be Dad. This is a special kind of hell. One notch down from your child dying. No loving, willing and able parent should have to go through this. Doing this helps me feel like I have a purpose. If I can’t repair my girls then maybe I can at least help another Dad.
I’ve made a few claims here. They are all true. I brought the receipts. My custody battle lasted 20 years from 2005 to 2024 and I kept everything. I have over 1,000 documents. Court documents. Letters to and from the court. Letters to and from Evil Baby Mama. Years of text messages. Police reports, pictures, voice recordings. I put this all together into a website.
The sister site to this one.
Daddy Got Screwed!
I just started doing this. Other than building the website, I really don’t know what the hell I am doing. I’m kind of just figuring it out as I go. If anyone wants to help out, volunteer, has any advice or suggestions, please feel free to let me know. The best I can do is give moderator rights to some people that want to help out. This is completely volunteer. There will be no pay. Don’t do it for me. Do it for your kids.
DISCLAIMER:
To be fair, this doesn’t apply to all Moms. There actually are some very good Moms out there. Moms that would never pull bullshit like this with custody or support. Those Moms Rock! Thanks for being Great!
I know there are some Mom’s that go through this same shit. Some Mom’s get Screwed to but these sites are focused on Dad. However, if you’re a Mom and going through the same shit, you are more than welcome to join us. No parent, Dad or Mom, should have to go through this.
I am here because I was forced to fight for my own kids.
I am here because my parenting time was weaponized and used against me.
My legal custody battle started in 2005 and ended in 2024. I have two girls that are now adults, 19 and 21. I am still fighting for them. As of right now, they will not talk to me. One of them says that she hates me. I am a Grandpa for the first time. I have a grandson. I have never met him. I have never seen a picture. I don’t even know his name. Right now, my girls want nothing to do with me. This is inadvertently my fault, but ultimately, it’s their Mother’s fault. I call her “Evil Baby Mama”.
My girls were kept from me. I was shut out of their lives. I’ve had to fight for my girls their entire lives. Evil Baby Mama did this. My girls were lied to, brainwashed, manipulated and “groomed” to hate me. Evil Baby Mama did this.
For over 20 years I have been fighting for my girls. I didn’t start the fighting. I didn’t want the fighting. I begged for the fighting to stop. Evil Baby Mama would not stop. I just wanted to be Dad but that was taken from me. Was I an asshole to Evil Baby Mama? Of course I was. Evil Baby Mama kept my girls from me, shut me out of their lives and forced me to fight for them. What am I supposed to do? Send her flowers and say thank you?
This constant, 20 year fighting for my girls has beaten me up, severely. It has pushed me into such a deep hole of depression that I can’t climb out of it. It has messed with my head to the extent that most days I can’t even think straight or even barely function. I’ve shut down and closed myself off. I seem constantly in a bad mood, upset. I get angry easily, and often, from stupid things. When I do get angry, upset, hurt, my mouth opens before my brain reacts so I’ve pushed people away, lost people, friends, family and my girls. I’ve lost motivation and ambition for anything. Interest in anything that I have loved has faded. My mind is empty yet a million thoughts race around. I feel lost without my girls. I feel like I am going though life on auto-pilot. I feel misaligned. Out of place. I feel without purpose. My mind shattered. My heart broken. My world crumbled. All that remains is dust on a picture and a faded memory. My life was taken. My happiness stripped away. I walk alone in darkness as I have lost my light. I have lost who I am. Just one hug. Just one, “I love you, Dad”, would instantly heal so much.
Evil Baby Mama did this to me. She was only able to do this because I love my girls so much.
Since the day my girls were born they have been the reason that turns my world. Every time that they were kept from me. Every time that I was shut of their lives. Every time that I had to fight for them. Every time that I was told no. I felt like a knife was being plunged through my heart. Every day that wound just got deeper. It wouldn’t go away. It couldn’t be healed. It can never be healed. I know I am Dad. I’m supposed to be “big and tuff”. Dad isn’t supposed to hurt. Dad isn’t supposed to cry. But I’m only human. I can only take so much. How much am I supposed to take? Is there a legal limit?
There have been scores of nights that I had to literally cry myself to sleep because I missed my girls so much. People don’t understand how much damage just this alone causes. I couldn’t see them. I couldn’t talk to them. I couldn’t do anything for no reason other than an evil, vindictive Mother.
I’m doing a 50/50 thing here. This is partly for my girls and partly for you. I’m doing this for my girls so that maybe someday they will understand what I really had to go through for them. What I was put through just trying to see them. I made mistakes. I’m not perfect. What happened with me and my girls was bad. It defiantly was not good. But what Evil Baby Mama has done is so much worse. My girls have been too brainwashed to see that. Too manipulated to understand. I need them to see that. It seems that my girls believe that I am 100% the bad guy. That I caused all of the problems. That I treated them bad their entire life. This is not true. I’m not trying to get my girls to hate their Mom. I don’t want that. I just want my girls to know the truth.
For over 20 years I have been trying to get my voice heard. For over 20 years I have been begging for someone to listen. No one will listen. Ever. For over 20 years there has been no change. I’ve always just wanted 50/50 with my girls. Nothing more. Nothing less. Just equal time. I couldn’t have that. I couldn’t have equal time with my own kids. Instead, I was forced to fight for them. I never tried to keep my girls from their Mom. I never lied to my girls about their Mom. I have never tried to get my girls to hate their Mom. Yet, this all was done to me.
The other part of the 50 for doing this is for you, Dad. I went through this hell for 20 years. I’ve gotten beaten up so bad. My family, my life, destroyed. Because I just wanted to be Dad. This is a special kind of hell. One notch down from your child dying. No loving, willing and able parent should have to go through this. Doing this helps me feel like I have a purpose. If I can’t repair my girls then maybe I can at least help another Dad.
I’ve made a few claims here. They are all true. I brought the receipts. My custody battle lasted 20 years from 2005 to 2024 and I kept everything. I have over 1,000 documents. Court documents. Letters to and from the court. Letters to and from Evil Baby Mama. Years of text messages. Police reports, pictures, voice recordings. I put this all together into a website.
The sister site to this one.
Daddy Got Screwed!
I just started doing this. Other than building the website, I really don’t know what the hell I am doing. I’m kind of just figuring it out as I go. If anyone wants to help out, volunteer, has any advice or suggestions, please feel free to let me know. The best I can do is give moderator rights to some people that want to help out. This is completely volunteer. There will be no pay. Don’t do it for me. Do it for your kids.
DISCLAIMER:
To be fair, this doesn’t apply to all Moms. There actually are some very good Moms out there. Moms that would never pull bullshit like this with custody or support. Those Moms Rock! Thanks for being Great!
I know there are some Mom’s that go through this same shit. Some Mom’s get Screwed to but these sites are focused on Dad. However, if you’re a Mom and going through the same shit, you are more than welcome to join us. No parent, Dad or Mom, should have to go through this.